Hi, well actually I had nearly 400 views and nearly 50-60 in my favourites and I know many had put me in their favourites also, but the one person who stood out the most is the one and only person I actually meet the other day after 1 month of chatting everyday on messenger and email and texts. I think the important thing is to give the other person something to look forward to each day by receiving either an email, text or something that makes that person feel excited. By doing that it draws in that person closer and they begin to feel a certain amount of trust. Trust is important, more so for women, as there are a lot of guys out there who just want to get one thing, and I know how it much feel for women having to filter through the players and the real men! I've actually used a similar site 2 years ago with my last partner and although we are only just no together, we did have a child who is 1 year and we do still talk as we need to do so for our child, but we have kind of moved on in terms of the relationship. this hasn't stopped me from using a site again as I do think it has many positive ways in which is good for couples who are trying to meet. There is obviously the control that each person has which gives it the safety factor. So I would suggest it to others to use for sure. So this person I meet just the other day, it went really well and we met near her home in a public place and we went for a meal and had fun. We spoke a lot and I really think she is a nice person and I think there could be something there! I'm yet to really find out what she is really thinking but the impression she gives is similar to mine.
Time will only tell if we get to stay together. We are keeping an open mind and as we are both local to each other so we will certainly see more of each other. Hey, you never know, we might even come one of your success stories that might appear on your reality show.! Who knows! LOL. Well if you want I'll keep you posted on how things turn out, and if not and someone else happens to end being the right person, well time will only tell. I guess the key is to just have an open mind and as long as both parties know what the expectations are then no one should get hurt. I never want any person to get hurt and for me I was always brought up to treat people in the way you expect to be treated! I have 3 sisters and I would like to think that I treat women in the same way as I would expect other guys to treat my sisters. With respect! I think that as long as people take things slowly and don't go into this with huge expectations, then I don't think anyone can get too disappointed. As I say, safety is got to be the main thing and as long as sincerity is shown on both parts then that is got to be a good start.No one can control the outcome but if it was meant to be then it will, and if it doesn't then maybe good friends can come out of it. Now in my book that's a win-win situation. I hope I gave some feedback that helps in these matters and I will keep in touch and let you know the outcome. Have a nice day. Liam.
I have met someone that seems very compatible. We will meet each other for the very first time in the week between christmas and new years. My man found me.... very quickly, so I have no information that I can share about improvement at this time.
My boyfriend and I talked on the phone two weeks prior to meeting and we had emailed back and forth several times on the site for over a week prior to meeting. We initially planned a phone call but because he had plans with family that ran late we had to put the phone call off, which I thought was fishy. But he called when he said he would the next time. He is very busy with his work, which is not unusual for his level. The conversation went well, I could tell he wanted to get to the elimination round.
I truly didn't care if I was in or out and was ready to stop dating for a while at this point anyway, I had not had any prior dates from Olderwomendating. I told him everything he wanted to know, including why my first marriage ended after 15 years, which is that my husband had decided to become a woman, that is enough to scare some men off right there. He wanted to know if I was ready for a serious relationship. That is precisely why I was dating, which I told him. Our conversation went over an hour and went very well. We decided we wanted to meet and left that open because I still was not sure what my schedule was with my THREE children (again another scary factor for some men). So, he rang me less than a week later and asked if we could get together. I wanted to see him, but I had made plans with a girlfriend to attend a play, she was not sure she was going to make it due to her work schedule so I told him I would have to get back to him.
I was going to be disappointed if I didn't get to meet this man who declared after I first "winked" at him on the site that we were a "match". So, I told my friend that I would prefer to meet this man that I've been trying to meet since she was unsure she could make it before doors close. I met my date at the theater and he was more down to earth and normal than I expected. I typically never made the first moves on the dating sites, but I did wink at about ten men on the same day that were all from the Houston area. I am sure glad I did that because I am so glad I met this one. He was the first man I met from the site, I don't ever want to meet another man. We had the best first date ever watching the Santaland Diaries that I had gotten tickets for and we walked to a historic hotel nearby that he knew of for dinner. He landed the first peck on the lips there. I usually do not want to kiss on the first date, but as we talked at dinner that night I could not help but think "Is this guy for real?", so his kiss was welcome. We have now been dating for almost eight months.
Initially when dating online, I had many rules for myself. I would not meet for more than a drink (waste of time, I thought). I would not initiate contact by emailing or winking. I am glad I bent the rules and decided to have a real date with a man who could carry on a good phone conversation and I winked at him first. I am a busy mom and I don't want to waste my time, but it is an investment of time. I had several REALLY bad dates for over 2 years before I met this man. I could write a very detailed book about those dates. But it was all worth it to meet the right person. My guy was also ready to throw in the towel, so keeping the attitude that they also have to take time out to make plans, be on time, shave, and generally carry on a good conversation and then pay the bill is a good start. It's a mutual effort.
I am glad I bent my rules and made the first move online. I had thought if they want to know me they would reach out, but some men who I might have been willing to get to know had eliminated me thinking I would not be interested in them. In fact, the man I am dating saw my pictures on another dating site and based on those thought I would not be interested in him. I disagree, I winked at him on Olderwomendating.com. I initially made the mistake on my profile on another site of saying what I don't want, and I did much better finding what I want when I stated honestly what I wanted. I think men should do the same on theirs.
There is a lot of speculation on the site about if it is "real" or "does it work". All I know is that it has worked for me to find a man who accepts me and my children. The site is as real as the people on it. I would recommend for the site to allow some interaction from successful members to new members of the same sex.